“Dancing With Cinderella”
When the weight of the world is on your shoulders, dance with those you love!
Last week I heard the news about a mother here who lost her son in July and her husband in August. Sometimes the tragedy and heartbreak of life can seem just too overwhelming.
The popular singer/songwriter Steven Curtis Chapman, no stranger to loss and heartbreak himself, writes about this eloquently in his song, “Cinderella.” After he and his wife adopted three Chinese girls, he was inspired to write these lyrics:
She spins and she sways,
To whatever song plays,
Without a care in the world,
And I'm sitting here wearing,
The weight of the world on my shoulders…
How often in life do those who love us tap us on the shoulder asking for a date, some time for play, or time just to sit with them on the porch and talk about dreams and goals and plans. No parent wants to outlive one of their children.
Perhaps only one who has suffered such gut wrenching loss as Chapman, who outlived two of his children, can see the wisdom of living for the moment with those you love. I have never believed God causes pain and tragedy, but surely the Creator of the universe can turn tragedy into hope. In Chapman’s case a brief look at the blogs about these lyrics dispels any notion that through Chapman’s suffering, millions have not been inspired:
So I will dance with Cinderella
While she is here in my arms
'Cause I know something the prince never knew
Oooooh, I will dance with Cinderella
I don't wanna miss even one song
'Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight
And she'll be gone...
So whatever your tragedy, and whatever weight is bearing down upon you today. Remember to take the hand of your wife, husband, daughter, granddaughter, family member or friend, especially when asked, and dance while the music is still playing. And guys listen to your wife about this one, she is right.
Dr. Rob Leach
Further Reading about stress, coping and family:
For an article about stress management from WebMD: http://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/stress-management-topic-overview
For an excellent article from the National Institutes of Mental Health about coping with traumatic events: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/coping-with-traumatic-events/index.shtml
For information about life challenges and emotional health from Dr. Dobson’s Focus On the Family website: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/lifechallenges/emotional_health.aspx
For an article about how to identify stress from the Mayo Clinic: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/stress-management/MY00435